I’m a Martha Beck trained Wayfinder Life Coach, Masters level trained counselor, and it is my mission in life:
*To wrap people in big blankets of You Matter So Much
*To see, listen and care deeply
*To be true to my heart, play by my own rules and support others in doing the same
*To keep learning, practicing and sharing paths to big healing, big love, and a big life
How I Roll
I’ve come to trust that a good part of the time, life seems to give us exactly the right people and circumstances that will help us to learn and grow the most, and that there blessings to be found in even in the darkest times.
I believe in accepting the heck out of what is, while always finding a way through and using it all, to love and live better.
I cherish and hold close my integrity, my open heart, and my connection to my Something Bigger.
I beam with pride over my three quirky, amazing, very much who-they-uniquely-are children, and that I have given them a strong foundation in life.
I end up feeling the most at home when my toes are in the sand, when I’m sweaty on the dance floor, and while driving at dusk in summer with the windows down and the music cranked.
I can’t get enough of deep, replenishing play, conversations from the soul, and laughing so hard my stomach hurts.
I know in my bones that we are made to heal, that grief can open us to more joy, that we are meant to love and be loved, and it is possible to live our most precious dreams.
How I Got Here
You could say I walked out of my childhood carrying a pretty big bag of dysfunction. Codependency, people pleasing, abandonment issues, anxiety, I could have been the poster child for all of these and more. I had some good sized wounds.
I also had some amazing survival instincts, good intuition, a general liking of myself, and a passion for people and understanding what makes us all tick. I was good at listening, being empathetic and problem solving. People seemed to turn to me when they needed support and help and comfort.
I went on to study Psychology and then got a Masters in Counseling. I also did a lot of counseling myself. And while I knew my issues and their origins like the back of my hand, most of my life choices were still based on my old painful belief systems.
“Stay Safe” could have been my life motto for a good 20 of my grown up years.
I avoided the unknown, what made me feel anxious or insecure, and doing things that required risk or possible rejection. I made choices based on what I thought was secure, and I let many of my hopes and dreams stagnate.
Then I guess you could say I got shaken to awaken.
My Mom got sick. Several people I loved and cared for died. My 21 year marriage ended. I could no longer stay inside the nice little illusion of a safety bubble that I had created for myself. It popped in my face.
I felt like there was nothing to hold on to. I was so scared that all I could do is live one moment at a time. And with this letting go, came huge gifts.
One of them was finding coaching.
On a ordinary sunny day, at a particularly rock bottom, pray-as-hard-as-you-can moment, a small voice inside of me told me to chill out, go drink an iced tea, and look up coaching programs. I sat down and immediately thought of Martha Beck…I didn’t even know she had a coaching program. But she did, and it fit me like a glove.
Because of coaching, I learned ways to calm my fear and bust through the old ways of thinking that keep me stuck or in pain.
I learned to accept instead of resist, and heal by offering loving kindness to my most shameful, scared and wounded parts.
My life now is more playful, passionate, and meaningful. I take risks and go for things when they feel like a “Yes” in my body.
My life has become so much more ME.
I still go into panic and self doubt. I still have a lot of tender in my wounds. I still have major crappy days.
But I have a amazing tool box now, and when I consistently use what’s in it, I move more easily through these things and back into the rich, sweet place of peace.
How I Can Help
Every ounce of me believes that right here, right now, you have everything within you that is needed to grow and heal and create a dang good life for yourself. I did it, and I know I can teach you a lot of the same things that helped me to get there. I love supporting others, sharing the tools I have learned, and it would be my honor to walk with you for a bit on your journey.
If you are curious about giving coaching a go, drop me a message in the box below. I’d love to talk with you more!